Childlessness affects over 1/5th of our society and yet the pro-natalist obsession causes alienation and pain to those struggling with Childlessness not by Choice.

This is the final part of three blog posts on Kindness. The first ‘Be kind to yourself’ about letting yourself off the hook, the second ‘Be kind to your household’ especially when they are trying your patience which can be read by clicking the links. This one is focusing on being kind to strangers. Kindness is like a viral YouTube video. Every person who sees it feels like sharing it with others.

You have heard all the benefits of positive thinking, but try as you might you just cant get into the mindset. You are not alone. When we are stressed, anxious or depressed we tend to use our primitive brain – your fight or flight response. This brain is negative – it needs to always think of the worst possible scenario so it can ‘protect you’. It’s obsessional, it will continue to ruminate on negative thoughts as it thinks by reminding you of the ‘threat’ it will keep you from it. This works for a real-life tangible threat, but not when we are only feeling this threat in our minds eye. It’s ok that positive thinking doesn’t come naturally. The good news is that It is a habit, and like all habits we can develop it with practice. The more you practice the better you will become at it.